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1. Never shake a man’s hand sitting down.

2. There are plenty of ways to enter a swimming pool. The stairs ain’t one.

3. The man at the BBQ is the closest thing we have to a king.

4. In a negotiation, never make the first offer.

5. Act like you’ve been there before. Especially in the end zone.

6. Request the late check-out.

7. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.

8. Hold your heroes to a higher standard.

9. Return a borrowed car with a full tank of fuel.

10. Don’t fill up on bread.

11. When shaking hands, grip firmly and look him in the eye.

12. Don’t let a wishbone grow where a backbone should be.

13. If you need music on the beach, you’re missing the point.

14. Carry two handkerchiefs. The one in your back pocket is for you. The one in your breast pocket is for her.

15. You marry the girl, you marry her whole family.

16. Be like a duck. Remain calm on the surface and paddle like crazy underneath.

17. Experience the serenity of traveling alone.

18. Never be afraid to ask out the best looking girl in the room.

19. Never turn down a breath mint.

20. A sport coat is worth 1000 words.

21. Try writing your own eulogy. Never stop revising.

22. Thank a veteran. And then make it up to him.

23. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.

24. Eat lunch with the new kid.

25. After writing an angry email, read it carefully. Then delete it.

26. Ask your mum to play. She won’t let you win.

27. See it on the big screen.

28. Give credit. Take the blame.

29. Write down your dreams.

 

Orignal Source – Aaron Conrad – https://aaronconrad.com/2017/08/23/rules-for-my-son-2

Part 4 The Pregnancy ….

This is a continuation from Part 1Part 2 & Part 3 of my journal / journey through the IVF process & the thoughts that go with it.

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The Pregnancy thing

A normal pregnancy is difficult enough but with a twin one, everything gets twice as big twice as fast, and that’s not just the mum! 2 cots / 2 car seats / twice as many vests / nappies to buy in bulk to stock up. House extensions bedroom / nursery move round.

The IVF thing

Something they don’t tell you but I’ve now found is really common is the disconnect for the man in an IVF pregnancy.  I really struggled to come to terms with the fact I didn’t feel part of this at all, I was all over the 1st one, went to all the scans, had every scan picture blu-tacked to my PC screen at work, felt every kick.

With the IVF pregnancy, I didn’t feel the urge for any of that, was it just because it wasn’t the first-born? Is everyone like this on the second pregnancy or was something deeper happening? I struggled with this for several months. Combined with being in the middle of a massive project at work meant the first scan I attended was almost at the end of the 2nd trimester.

It was only after talking to a men’s IVF group I found it was almost “normal” some found that after the first scan they connected or for some it was even at the birth when it finally clicked into place.

It essentially comes down to the notion that you had nothing to do with the creation of this child / children, the mother still carries for 9 months as normal and has that symbiotic bonding time, where as a father, you almost had zero part to play in it all. The entire decision-making process taken away from you. You have done no more that sign a piece of paper and nip to the loo for a couple of minutes.

So here we go just days left and the world changes again!

PoBz

(Father of 1 & Expectant Father of another 2 with very little hair / sanity left)

Part 3 A journeys end ….

This is a continuation from Part 1 & Part 2 of my journal / journey through the IVF process & the thoughts that go with it.


So, as we come to the end of the journey and the more astute of you will have noticed the title doesn’t say failed in it anymore! After 105 Injections (Another 198 to go still), 749 Tablets, 20+ Appointments, 10 Months & 3 rounds of IVF we did it!

It is very early days but the other half is carrying a couple (yes you read that right!) of new additions to the household.

As journeys go this has been an arduous one for us both, personally it has pushed me close to breaking point emotionally, mentally & financially and is something I hope none of my friends ever has to go through themselves. Without the support of 2 strong families around us I don’t know how we would have made it through these multiple rounds of IVF each one harder than the last.

I seriously don’t know how I would have coped with another failure, I had nothing left to give and was truly drained of all 3.

We did find solace & comfort in the online Facebook IVF groups, but even at times that was hard as more and more people posted their successes as we found only failure.

Even though we only started IVF earlier this year (approximately 10 months ago) it feels like years have passed, with our lives, careers, holidays all on hold. In fact we’ve been together 8 years this year and we’ve only ever been on 2 holidays and one of them was the year after we met & the other was the honeymoon 5 years ago.

Now our IVF journey ends and we begin a new one as a family of 5, now comes the search for bigger cars, house extensions, double buggies, twice as many nappies etc.

The other upside of twins will hopefully be less arguing when picking names & God parents as there is twice as many spaces to fill this time, although the name suggestions Mrs S keeps coming out with I’m sure she’s a closet hippy! She didn’t like the lets name one each suggestion though, mainly because she knows I would pick Thor Oakenshield or Loki Morningstar.

As these kids have already cost us the same as a mid-size family saloon I’m also very tempted to name one Ford & the other Mondeo, but I don’t think she’ll will let me do that either.

I’m very glad this journey has come to an end successfully and we can move on with the rest of our lives. If you have gone through this already I’m sure you can understand what we went through. If you are going through it, I feel for you and I’m here if you need to talk about it. If you’re not, thank whoever you believe in that you’re not.

If you’ve been with me all the way I hope you enjoyed reading the journey, it’s been a useful cathartic output for me and I enjoyed it even if you didn’t. 🙂

If this was your 1st one please go back and read the 1st 2 parts as well (Part 1 & Part 2) and I hope you find them enlightening and slightly humorous in parts.

Thanks to everyone who read / commented / supported us along the way, it’s surprising how much a how you doing text or thinking of you both message on Facebook goes.

Most people don’t know what to say and just avoid you altogether, but it’s the closest friends that know it’s just any distraction and the odd how you holding up mate that reminds you that there is people outside the IVF bubble you’re in and that they are concerned but sometimes just scared to ask in case its bad news. The recent scope advert for disability actually had some parallels. (Apart from the introduce yourself bit)

Hopefully other friends who’ve been getting a bit tetchy with me will now understand why I’ve be preoccupied / unavailable for lads nights out this past 12 months, at the end of the day getting Mrs S through this IVF have been priority 1 and any slight hiccup with it, it’s been my job to fix / smooth over / reassure that everything is going to be OK while under the surface panicking like hell myself & trying not to show it.

Right I’m off to stockpile on pallets of nappies & wipes and as I’ve twice as many to buy this time make sure you go out and buy a copy of my new book 50 Shades of Blonde! – 50 Shades of Blonde Book

As I said this is the end of our IVF journey but the beginning of a twin pregnancy, so I may well keep posting updates if anyone’s interested.

PoBz

(Father of 1 & Expectant Father of another 2 with very little hair / sanity left)

Week 9 and a call to arms (literally)


Blood / Platelet Donation,

Let me start this by telling you what made me start donating.

On August the 11th 1999 during the solar eclipse my Grandma died, she had been battling various forms of cancer for the previous few years, during this time she needed a lot of blood & chemo and as she was the same blood type as me something clicked in my head and said I should be donating my blood to replace what she had needed.

Now my father had been a long time blood donor & latterly a Platelet donor, but my fear of needles had held me off following in his footsteps doing this.

This major event in my life made me power through and man up and for the next 15 years (with a couple of gaps for getting tattoos) I donated blood every 3-4 months, then in 2014 I made the change to platelet donation, this gave me the opportunity to donate almost every month as the red blood cells are returned into my body.

Platelet donation is used slightly differently to Whole Blood donation and is used mainly in the following ways;

  • Treatment for Chemotherapy
  • Organ / Bone Marrow Transplant
  • Life threatening bleeding
  • To treat severe blood disorders

Just 1 platelet donation can help 3 adults or 12 children!!

The only lifestyle change I had to make for platelet donation is to cut back on fatty foods & cheese around the donation date as it clouds the sample and they can’t tell if it’s good or not, which isn’t a bad change to my diet really.

It takes a little longer than normal donation (about 1-1½ hours) but there are great nurses on hand with Tea / Biscuits / Sandwiches and a chat if you want any of them.

If you’re not on the organ donation for whatever reason, then maybe think about either blood or platelet donation, just an hour out of your life every month or 30 minutes every 3 months and you can help lots of people.

They have even started to send you a text telling you what hospital your donation has been issued to which is a nice little touch.

They need blood & platelet donations 365 days a year and especially around Christmas so if you’re thinking about it now is a great time.

Find out more below & the location of your nearest donation session;

https://www.blood.co.uk/

http://platelets.blood.co.uk/

 

Have a good weekend, see you all next week!!

PoBz

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Here we go week 4!

Despite the title this one does have a humorous ending.


First of all you’re going to need a piece of paper & a pen or pencil …. Off you go.

Got them? Good then let us begin.

We all know that person in the group who can read body language and is an expert on people, no? Oh well they are probably lurking in the group watching you all for their dissertation.

I’ve met a few actual training psychologists in my time through friends and occasionally you look at their partner and you wonder if it’s more like they’re a study case than a husband / wife!

Anyway here’s a bit of light-hearted fun…. Complete the first section before skipping to the end for your 100% accurate and official analysis 🙂

 

 

Draw the Pig

 

DON’T CHEAT, BECAUSE IF YOU DO IT WON’T WORK.  DRAW THE PIG FIRST AND JUST FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS.  IT WON’T TAKE BUT A MINUTE.

HAVE FUN.

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On a blank piece of paper draw a pig. Then scroll down and read the interpretation of your pig!!

Draw your pig first!  And don’t look at the next part until you are done!  It won’t be fun if you look first!!!

The pig serves as a useful test of the personality traits of the drawer.

If the pig is drawn;

 

  • Toward the top of the paper, you are positive and optimistic.
  • Toward the middle, you are a realist.
  • Toward the bottom, you are pessimistic, and have a tendency to behave negatively.

 

  • Facing left, you believe in tradition, are friendly, and remember dates (birthdays, etc.)
  • Facing right, you are innovative and active, but don’t have a strong sense of family, nor do you remember dates.
  • Facing front (looking at you), you are direct, enjoy playing devil’s advocate and neither fear nor avoid discussions.
  • Facing away & looking back over its shoulder at you … you have issues & an anal fixation … seriously get help!!

 

  • With many details, you are analytical, cautious, and distrustful.
  • With few details, you are emotional and naïve, you care little for details and are a risk-taker.

 

  • With less than 4 legs showing, you are insecure or are living through a period of major change.
  • With 4 legs showing, you are secure, stubborn, and stick to your ideals.

 

  • The size of the ears indicates how good a listener you are. (The bigger the better)

 

  • The length of the tail indicates the quality of your sex life!!!! (And again more is better!)

 

OK, who didn’t draw a tail???

 

Have a good weekend, catch you next week.

 

PoBz

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