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Here we go week 4!

Despite the title this one does have a humorous ending.


First of all you’re going to need a piece of paper & a pen or pencil …. Off you go.

Got them? Good then let us begin.

We all know that person in the group who can read body language and is an expert on people, no? Oh well they are probably lurking in the group watching you all for their dissertation.

I’ve met a few actual training psychologists in my time through friends and occasionally you look at their partner and you wonder if it’s more like they’re a study case than a husband / wife!

Anyway here’s a bit of light-hearted fun…. Complete the first section before skipping to the end for your 100% accurate and official analysis 🙂

 

 

Draw the Pig

 

DON’T CHEAT, BECAUSE IF YOU DO IT WON’T WORK.  DRAW THE PIG FIRST AND JUST FOLLOW THE INSTRUCTIONS.  IT WON’T TAKE BUT A MINUTE.

HAVE FUN.

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On a blank piece of paper draw a pig. Then scroll down and read the interpretation of your pig!!

Draw your pig first!  And don’t look at the next part until you are done!  It won’t be fun if you look first!!!

The pig serves as a useful test of the personality traits of the drawer.

If the pig is drawn;

 

  • Toward the top of the paper, you are positive and optimistic.
  • Toward the middle, you are a realist.
  • Toward the bottom, you are pessimistic, and have a tendency to behave negatively.

 

  • Facing left, you believe in tradition, are friendly, and remember dates (birthdays, etc.)
  • Facing right, you are innovative and active, but don’t have a strong sense of family, nor do you remember dates.
  • Facing front (looking at you), you are direct, enjoy playing devil’s advocate and neither fear nor avoid discussions.
  • Facing away & looking back over its shoulder at you … you have issues & an anal fixation … seriously get help!!

 

  • With many details, you are analytical, cautious, and distrustful.
  • With few details, you are emotional and naïve, you care little for details and are a risk-taker.

 

  • With less than 4 legs showing, you are insecure or are living through a period of major change.
  • With 4 legs showing, you are secure, stubborn, and stick to your ideals.

 

  • The size of the ears indicates how good a listener you are. (The bigger the better)

 

  • The length of the tail indicates the quality of your sex life!!!! (And again more is better!)

 

OK, who didn’t draw a tail???

 

Have a good weekend, catch you next week.

 

PoBz

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Part 2 the home stretch ….

This is a continuation from part 1 of my journal / journey through the IVF process & the thoughts that go with it.

So here we go, the last chance saloon, this time is our last shot hoping for 2 aces rather than a 7 /4 of clubs.

img_2045This time the drugs have doubled due to the nice anomaly that, well it didn’t work this time so it could be 1 of 3 things and as it would cost £3k to test for it and only £1k to treat for it so lets just treat them all anyway. Not only the extra cash but extra needles / tablets etc as well to do.

But if it works then worth every penny!

So we start the new regime and i’m getting better at the injections (I’m considering retraining as a nurse, that’s all they do right? No? ah right bugger i’ll stay as i am then).

This treatment includes steroids and man if you think the meat head from the gym gets angry on them, try leaving crumbs on the kitchen worktop with a woman on steroids and IVF hormone drugs!

Rickon Zig Zag

Duck & Weave!! Zig Zag Rickon for gods sake Zig & Zag!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

whatAnother pearler of a face was when I came home from Platelet Donation at the local blood donors and commented ooh they haven’t half bruised my arm this time, then turning round to see your wife’s face who’s stomach currently looks like she went 3 rounds with Mike Tyson from all the injection marks.

4GEESo eggs out and similar crop to last time which is a bit disappointing as we were on double dose of the hormone & all the extra drugs but it only takes 1! I do my bit in the stationery cupboard again (The reading material hasn’t got any better … EE 4G mobile internet to the rescue). Results back and all well above as usual, well done ball bags you didn’t let me down.

So eggs in the cooker and we wait for the daily report … each day another 1 seems to have fallen off and panic begins to set in for us both, what if there isn’t enough left to put in at the end?

Day 5 comes and we’ve 2 healthy ones, so do we keep 1 and freeze or take the gamble and put both in, well as its last chance and we don’t want to go through another round of drugs then both go in and we’ll take the risk of 2 attaching.

Now the dreaded 2 week wait and trying to make sure my wife actually sits on her bum and does nothing!!! Easier said than done!

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So that’s where we are now … coming towards the end of the 2 week wait, then we’ll test and know if anything took. I’ll keep you informed but not for a while as if it worked we’re not telling anyone for a few weeks just to make sure, and if it didn’t work things will be too raw to write down straight away and we’ll need time to process it.

So Part 3 the final chapter will be in a month or so either way.

Wish us luck!

 

PoBz & Mrs S

fingers-crossed

In the first edition of this weekly blog I’d like to share this article I spotted online which makes perfect sense…Something to think about?


As we grow older, and hence wiser, we slowly realise that wearing a £300 or a £30 watch – – they both tell the same time.

Whether we carry a £300 or a £30 wallet/handbag – – the amount of money inside is the same.

Whether we drink a bottle of £300 or £10 wine – – the hangover is the same.

Whether the house we live in is 100 or 1000 square metre. – – loneliness is the same.
You will realise, your true inner happiness does not come from the material things of this world.

Therefore, I hope you realise, when you have mates, buddies and old friends, brothers and sisters, who you chat with, laugh with, talk with, have sung songs with, talk about north-south-east-west or heaven and earth – – That is true happiness!!

SIX UNDENIABLE FACTS OF LIFE:

1. Don’t educate your children to be rich. Educate them to be Happy. So when they grow up they will know the value of things not the price.

2: Best awarded words: “Eat your food as your medicines. Otherwise you have to eat medicines as your food.”

3: The One who loves you will never leave you because even if there are 100 reasons to give up he or she will find one reason to hold on.

4: There is a big difference between a human being and being human. Only a few really understand it.

5. You are loved when you are born. You will be loved when you die. In between, You have to manage!

6: If you just want to Walk Fast, Walk Alone! But if you want to Walk Far, Walk Together!

SIX BEST DOCTORS IN THE WORLD:
1. Sunlight

2. Rest

3. Exercise

4. Diet

5. Self Confidence and

6. Friends/Family

Maintain them in all stages of Life and enjoy a healthy life.

The older we get, the fewer things seem worth waiting in line for.


So in summary, do what ever makes you happy in life, call that old friend for a pint / glass of wine, go play catch in the park with your children. Life isn’t all about chasing the money, yes it can buy you things but sometimes happiness can be taken for free.

Enjoy your weekend.

PoBz

 

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Part 1 the Journey so far ….

This is my journal / journey through the IVF process & the thoughts that go with it.

 

Let me start by saying neither me or my partner ever expected to have to go through this, no person ever does really, it’s the old adage of you spend your early adult years trying you best not to get pregnant, then when you come to start a family you realise how hard and unfair life can sometimes be.

Multiple failed IVF cycles can cover a long period of time in a relationship, where it feels your entire life with each other is on hold, all under the control of a 3rd party, for the first year your try not to let things slip, try to still have date nights, try not to get too obsessed with timescales etc.

However each failure takes its toll and breaks-down the strongest of couples and you can see how it can easily lead to the destruction of a once solid partnership.

The hard part is watching your partner struggle for years with seeing friends / family all “seem” to get pregnant easily or worse still people fall pregnant who don’t want it / not sure whether to keep it. All this happens around you with nothing you can do apart from try to be a rock for her.

Once the decision is made as a couple to start IVF there is almost a relief as it’s now in a professionals hands and they know what they’re doing it will all get sorted now, right?

Off to the clinic for a sperm deposit and check-up, results come back way over the UK average sperm count / motility. Mini Hi 5, Gold medal & victory dance for me!! This elation is quickly replaced by a deep feeling of guilt that this could be something wrong with your partner or worse still the dreaded unexplained infertility.

For a man this is pretty much the end of his involvement in the IVF process, you then have to sit back and watch your partner go through many many invasive and much more uncomfortable checks & procedures, we do get off very lightly boys. The worst part of mine was it was the room next door to the receptionist and a busy corridor with some questionable 1980’s reader’s wives material (Thank god for 4G internet!!!!)

4612469868_238x228Once all the checks were completed and the results came back with the dreaded unexplained infertility this gives your stomach a huge drop as how can they fix it if they don’t know what’s wrong (the equivalent of the check engine light of the car, could be an engine coil could be the fuel filter, if only the wife had an ECU plug socket somewhere & I could attached the diagnostic machine).

Now the 1st round starts, not helped for us by my wife being needle phobic and the protocol we were on requiring 2 injections a day at the same time every day for weeks. So I step up and honestly a small enjoyment not because of giving my wife a little prick before you ask, but because I’m involved again and have some connection to the events.

Now these drugs are big hormone hitters and all credit to my wife, the nurse gave us some stories about how emotional & mood swingy she would get but she did really well, even after dropping her beloved iPhone down the toilet (Not the first time I may add) which would send most people today into a meltdown.

The day finally comes for them to remove the eggs and we got a bumper crop more than average (Hi 5 for the wife’s ovaries) of them my little fellas fertilise 80%, again over average results, they go in a cooker for a few weeks and we get over average amount through to the last stage. All looking good confidence is high!! We must have just needed that little bit of help from IVF’s Mary Berry.

ivfThe checks continue and soon it comes round to implantation day another time I’m needed (again in a slightly more private room but the same reading material, maybe I’m a porn snob?? But back on the 4G internet I was).

So that’s us back in the hands of the professionals and a 2 week wait for a pregnancy test, confidence still fairly high as we’ve been above average patients all the way. We have photos of the cells & even a video of it growing in the chamber, what felt like nice touches at the time but it’s strange how attached you get to that photo just like a 12 week baby scan, so when the test came back negative it was crushing for us both.

A brief week to regroup and pick ourselves back up from the floor and its back to the consultant to talk about starting round 2 as we had frozen the other eggs from round 1, the doctor is confident and even says the odds are approximately 50/50 at our age group at this clinic so this time maybe?

This round of drugs is tablet not injection but already the optimism that we both shared is starting to wain as we spend the weeks prepping, this time the hormones did hit like a train & also sickness, maybe it was the adrenaline of the 1st go that kept it all at bay or these drugs are harder on the system.

This round was a lot harder to stand back and watch my wife get sicker and have no involvement / nothing I could do or say, matters made worse at the check-up when they double the dosage for the final couple of weeks.

Back to implantation again and this time I can’t attend so a friend of hers has to go down, we’re given the test date and it falls slap bang on the last day of a planned holiday, not ideal, the whole holiday is spent on tenterhooks (& alcohol free on her part).

Its bad news again and this time it just feels harder for many reasons, it was supposed to be 50/50 and we’ve done it twice? The next go is our last go, the next go is back on injections, Why can’t we do what people seem to manage round the back of a night club at 3am by mistake? What’s wrong with us? We already have a naturally conceived child so it must be possible for us?

What feels like rock bottom and 2 false starts is hard … hard to cope with yourself never mind be the rock you need to be for your partner. Especially as men we are prewired to bottle everything up and push it deep down never to be talked about, its not the sort of conversation you can strike up down the pub, so John did you see Zlatan Ibrahimovic’s goal at the weekend, by the way me and the missus are struggling I could do with a hug. So you bottle it up, drink it away, take it out on some poor unsuspecting sod on the 5 a side pitch and power through.

So for those of you that read this far. That’s where me & Mrs Pobz stand on the cusp of the last round, we had already agreed this would be the last set as we’ve seen people spend thousands & thousands and relationships destroyed by the constant cycles & are determined for this not to be us as well.

To be continued in Part 2 ….. fingers crossed for the next few months.

fingers-crossed

Pobz

Last Year I swam the Great North Swim for the first time for Christies Hospital in Manchester.

This year I’m upping my game and supporting a local charity!!

St John’s Hospice in Lancaster – http://www.sjhospice.org.uk

So this year i’m doing the following events;

  • The Great Manchester Run (10K on 20th of May 2012) – Completed in 1hr 3mins!
  • The Great North Swim (1 mile in Lake Windermere on the 23rd of June 2012) – Cancelled!
  • The Great Manchester Swim (1 mile across Salford Docks on the 1st of July 2012)  – Completed in 38mins 40secs!
  • The Lancaster 10k (10k on 18th of July 2012)  – Completed in 59mins 29secs!
  • The Great North Run (13 miles on the 16th September 2012)  – Completed in 2hrs 29mins 18secs!
  • The Lancaster Half Marathon (13 miles on the 4th November 2012).

I’m only asking people to sponsor me once for the whole season rather than five times!

Please visit http://www.justgiving.com/Peter-Sowerby78 or alternatively text any of the following;

PETE78 £1 to 70070

PETE78 £2 to 70070

PETE78 £5 to 70070

PETE78 £10 to 70070

PETE78 £20 to 70070

I’ll try and keep you all up to date with my progress and thanks to you all in advance!!

You can search for #BigPetesBig4 on twitter and i’ll keep you up to date with everything I’m doing!

Link to St John’s Hospice Article – http://www.sjhospice.org.uk/news/139/250/1-Man-4-huge-challenges/

Pete Sowerby – Manchester 10k Finish Line Video 20/05/2012